Domestic violence may include physical, sexual, emotional, and mental abuse that
occurs between two people in an intimate relationship. Some forms of abuse like
physical and sexual are easy to identify, but others like emotional abuse are harder to
recognize. Domestic violence acts are an attempt to control, manipulate, and dominate
Domestic Abuse Checklist:
1. Does your partner or someone close to you criticize you, put you down or call you
2. Are you frightened about how your partner will react if you get into an argument?
3. Are you frightened of your partner when he or she has been drinking?
4. Has your partner ever hit you?
5. Does your partner complain about your friendships or family members or stop you
from seeing them?
6. Does your partner ask you to do things you are uncomfortable with?
7. Are you ever worried that your children are seeing or hearing things they shouldn’t be?
8. Has your partner ever forced you to have sex with him/her or with other people? Has
he/she made you participate in sexual activities that you were uncomfortable with?
9. Has your partner ever kept you short of money so you are unable to buy food and
other necessary items for yourself and your children?
10. Has your partner prevented you from continuing or starting a college course, or from
going to work?
11. Does your partner constantly check up on you or follow you?
12. Has your partner ever tried to control you by telling you you could be deported
because of your immigration status?
13. Has your partner ever threatened to take your children away or said he/she would
refuse to let you take them with you, or even to see them if you left him/her?
Checklist and more information from:
Brass, Chelsea, and Abigail Hazlett. “Power and Control Wheel.” Coercive Control Collective, 2018, coercivecontrolcollective.org/news/2018/3/12/the-power-and-control-wheel-1.